Judith Hancey
November 11, 1946 - April 4, 2017
Judy Hancey died on April 4 at the Avenues Courtyard after a long illness.
Judy grew up in Clearfield, Utah, a middle child of Jack and Marjorie Lee Hancey. She was a conscientious student, and after high school went to college in Hawaii, then to Utah State University. She married Art Smith; they had a son, Jared, then later divorced. Judy held a number of administrative assistant positions, supporting herself and Jared, while hoping to complete her degree.
In 1979 she married Bruce Wycoff and they had a daughter, Katherine Rose. Judy graduated from the University of Utah in Anthropology and Women's Studies. She and Bruce divorced and remained good friends.
She spent the next few years working at the U of U, then as a librarian at the new downtown library — her favorite job of all.
Judy was like her mother – she liked gardening and traveling, and avoided housework and cooking. She travelled to France, Spain, and Japan. But her most memorable journeys were in red rock country – Canyon de Chelly, Havasupai, and Utah's National Parks. She loved nothing more than hiking in Capitol Reef with good friends. Judy created a network wherever she lived or worked. She knew all the neighbors on her block. Grad students from India came to her Thanksgiving dinners, along with her in-laws and ex-laws. People gravitated to Judy because she was a good listener; they could count on coffee and a conversation on her C Street porch. She rented out rooms to people who became lifelong friends – and some became her helpers as a rare neurological disease, PSP, took over her life.
The last few years of Judy's life would have been intolerable without the love and care of her daughter, Katherine, and the group efforts of Bruce, her sister Kim, Charlie and Claire, Hank, Micah, Sarah, Mariann, and Maya. They made it possible for Judy to attend Katherine's marriage to Micah Niles last fall. Avenues Courtyard's staff, and hospice nurse Christian treated her like family.
Judy is survived by her son Jared Smith, daughter Katherine Wycoff and her husband Micah Niles; siblings Karen Sullivan, Alan Hancey, Kim Hancey Duffy; and grandchildren Maya Jolley and Talmadge Smith. She was "Aunt Jude" to Claire, Liam, Gary, Blake, Paige, and Jake. Judy's best friend, her mother Marjorie, died two years ago at 94.
In Judy's honor, consider contacting legislators to hear about efforts on End of Life Options. Right now it is impossible not to remember Judy's struggle with the debilitating disease that captured the final decade of her life. But that will not define her — ultimately, Judy will be remembered for her kindness.
A celebration of life will be held Friday, April 21 from 6:00 to 8:00 PM at Starks Funeral Parlor, 3651 South 900 East, Salt Lake City, Utah. Please use the complimentary valet on the north side of the building.
In Loving Memory
I am so sad to hear of Judy's passing. She was a wonderful person to be around. Loving and kind come immediately to mind when thinking of her. She had a wonderful, dynamic personality. My love goes out to all of her family. Rest in Peace cousin. I'm sure your mom and dad are happy to have you again. Thoughts, prayers and love always.
Mike Hancey
Laramie, Wy
Judy was my true friend, and a dear sister to me. I am so sad to know she is gone. The memories of her laugh, her way of listening and being there for so many of us, her generosity, and intelligent point of view, her joie de vivre! Judy, you were such a pleasure to know, a delight, and you are sorely missed. I treasure the memories, and these wonderful video images of your life! My love and prayers are with you and your family and friends. Much love, "Repose en paix" Judy! Gael
Gael Duffy Hill
nan, nan
When I think of Judy, her smile and kindness immediately come to mind. Judy always asked about me and my boys, not just in passing as many do, she really wanted to know how we were. She actively listened, which made it easy to talk with her. My heart is with all of you as you celebrate Judy and her life tomorrow. She will be fondly remembered and sorely missed. Love to all. ~ Sara
Sara Keeler
Gillette, Wy
What a fitting tribute to such a gentle, caring, and thoughtful woman. She certainly is missed but the impressions she made will never fade. I am lucky to have had her as a relative and a friend. Love you, Aunt Jud! Liam
Liam Duffy
Brooklyn, NY
Judy was one of the sweetest and most generous women I have ever known. She was always delighted to see me, and after our all too infrequent exchanges I never failed to feel more happy and uplifted. I miss you Aunt Judy!
Ian Thomas Hill
Merlin, Or
Kim I am so sorry that you lost Judy and also I am so sorry she suffered. I will call you soon. Love Katie
Katie Coco
Salt Lake City, Ut
I along with Judy's other long time friend Fran Andrus just now learned of Judy's passing back in April. I'm so very sorry for the families loss and also devastated that we didn't know when it happened. We both would have been there for her life celebration. We tried to contact her for her birthday yesterday and that is how we found out. Judy was a powerful, witty, irreverent, and iand intuitive woman. She made working in an office fun and I was lucky to keep her as a friend after we all went our separate ways. Judy, I'm sorry we didn't get to say goodbye to you in the spring, Happy Birthday lady, hope you are celebrating it up wherever you are now. Love, Joy
"Mindy" Joy Davison
Salt Lake City, UT