Mary M. Miller
October 13, 1930 - June 9, 2020
Mary, our fun loving, talkative, compassionate mother is making friends, caring for others and greeting folks in the Celestial Heavens!
On Tuesday, June 9, 2020, Mary Margaret Miller, loving wife and mother of six, passed away at the age of 89 years. Mary’s death was due to Covid-19.
Mary was born October 13, 1930 to August F. Delaloye, Sr. and Gladys Ruth Moore Delaloye, in Ft. Smith, Arkansas. She was their fourth child and first daughter. Mary was born minutes after her twin brother, Joseph. Her birth surprised her parents, who had been expecting only one. August reportedly remarked “Gladys, you always over do things!” The twins were small but healthy and went home after two weeks in the hospital.
Mary’s early childhood was filled with typical experiences of the 1930’s. During the depression years, her father was out of work and the family moved several times. Most notably they spent time in Rolla, Missouri, living with uncles who had a farm there. The farm would be a place the family would visit many times over the years. In 1938, Mary’s family made its way back to Ft. Smith.
Mary’s young life centered on brothers and sisters (seven children now in the family), Catholic school/life and friends. She fondly remembered attending St. Boniface School and then St. Scholastica. Mary did well in school. She received good grades and not much wrath from the Sisters! Mary played with friends, took piano lessons, baby sat and had slumber parties.
In 1948, Mary entered nurses training at St. Edward’s Hospital. She lived, worked and went to school there. Students worked an 11:00 pm-7:00 am shift over and above classes. She enjoyed her time at St. Edwards, met many nice people and learned a lot. Mary graduated, passed the exam and became an RN in 1951. She worked at St Edward’s one year and then moved to New Orleans accepting employment at Charity Hospital.
While in New Orleans, she and her roommates enjoyed the Mardi Gras Festivities, parades and balls. Her brothers and sisters visited often and enjoyed the French Quarter, the beach and other tourist attractions. In September 1953, John Miller, from Ft. Smith, came to visit Mary’s roommate. Following his visit, John drove on to Ft. Walton Beach, Florida, where he worked for Hughes Aircraft. Mary didn’t give him much thought.
In December that year, John called, offering a ride to Ft. Smith as he travelled home for the holidays. Mary’s roommate accepted for the both of them. Mary later said “I wasn’t sure, but I guess my guardian angel was looking out for me. I went along and our romance started!” They were engaged in March and married June 19, 1954. John often said of his Mary, “she saved me from a life of loneliness”. No one could feel lonely with Mary in their corner.
Their first years of married life included lots of children and lots of moves. John’s career took them from Florida to California to New Mexico, back to California to Texas then on to Utah. Their home was very traditional, with John working to provide income and Mary running the household. As their kids grew Mary started a home daycare business where she made many life-long family friends. They had six children in all, three boys and three girls. Mary is survived by her children, Peter (Denise), David (Nanette), Ruth (Dale), Ann (Ken), Martha (Dan) and Mark (Amy). She has twelve grandchildren and nine great grandchildren, with one more on the way.
Mary and John spent the last few years of life at Canyon Creek Assisted Living. They enjoyed concerts, outings and crafts. She counted both residents and staffers among her friends. Mary was the unofficial Mayor of Canyon Creek! John passed away in January 2018 with Mary by his side. She has now rejoined her quiet, loving, unassuming husband of 64 years.
Mary was a passionate person. She was small, but determined. Her temper could flash and then subside in equal measure, instantaneously. Mary could laugh at herself and enjoyed making others laugh. She undeniably loved holidays and parties. Mary was a great conversationalist, making small talk as well as discussing current events. Most importantly, though, Mary was compassionate. She had a welcoming smile, making friends from all walks of life. She took an interest in others, offering hospitality, support and friendship. From neighbors to store clerks, from church members to sanitation workers, Mary was your friend. And as your friend, she always had a smile for you and a way about her that made you feel both loved and cared for.
Mary’s orbit literally drew in family, friends and strangers alike. And like all celestial beings, she was one in a million.
Our North Star has but moved behind the clouds a while.
Due to Covid-19 restrictions, a celebration of Mary’s life will be postponed.
In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made in Mary's honor to the Utah Food Bank www.utahfoodbank.org/give-money/.
In Loving Memory
Mary was an absolute joy. I met Mary and John at Canyon Creek when my mom was there. She took me into her kindness and helped me feel comfort. She told me about the Mass services there at Canyon Creek and me and mom attended until my mom passed. Your mom was a gift from God and she will always have a place in my heart. What a wonderful lady! My condolences but I find comfort knowing that she is back with John who she loved and attended to until he passed. My prayers are with you all during this difficult time.
Gina Cecala
Salt Lake City, Ut
Mary was my mom's, Reta Koepke's, friend and our neighbor in Texas. I remember her giving my mom a starter for sour dough bread. I now have some of that starter. I think I will make some bread today to honor her! So sorry for your loss.
Kim Koepke
nan, nan
Oh my gosh I can’t believe this!!! I met Mary and John at Canyon Creek and absolutely loved the both of them!!!! Mary would always make sure her daughters would get tootsie rolls for me that she kept in her room!!! I’m so sorry for your loss!!
Tory Gates
nan, Ut
I did not know your mother but wish to thank you for your beautiful ad in the Tribune. I am sad that so many look at Covid's victims as only numbers. I am 75 and want to live through this pandemic! Thank you for honoring your mother this way and for reminding people to think of whom they might protect by wearing a mask.
Nancy Cropper
Salt Lake City, UT
Sweet Mary took my ailing mother under her wing at Canyon Creek, just a few doors down, making sure she was attended to, cared for and brought her goodies. Mom always perked up when she heard Mary's voice. Mary and I spoke often, loved her holiday decorated door, her sweet spirit and was always beautifully groomed, down to her fingernails. Reading her history as a nurse explains her caring attitude. Mom passed in March, before we knew what the world was in for, and I do wonder. But Mary was there until the end and she is one of those rare individuals that you never, ever forget. How fortunate you were to have her in your lives. My grateful thoughts and peace are with Mary and with her family.
Jeri Wiens
Salt Lake City, UT
I had the opportunity to work as John’s physical therapist at Healthsouth years ago. I was always so touched by the love and care Mary showed toward him. I am better person for having known them. I am very sorry for your loss.
Wade Greenwood
Sandy, UT
I am so sorry for everyone's loss, especially Mary's family. Mary was a very special person and I am lucky to have been able to call her a friend. When I would visit Mary, she would always say, here is my best friend. :) I was blessed enough to speak to her a few days before her passing. She was still cracking jokes and asking me to break her out of the hospital and go for a drink. I will miss her dearly. I added a photo that I took one day, when she was going to sing at choir practice. She was always full of life and dressed for a party. Much love, Michelle
MICHELLE MARIE RUSSO
SALT LAKE CITY, UT
We are so sorry to hear about your mother passing away. Mary was so nice to my mother (Hisako) and they shared their love of the Utah Jazz. Mary would always check in on my mom and would remind her when the Jazz games were on. I know they shared watching their Jazz win many times together. We appreciate the fact that you are spreading the word to wear your masks during these trying times. I know my mom and Mary are together right now and I find peace in that. Much love to your family during this time. Mark & Gail Minaga
Mark Minaga (son of Hisako Minaga)
South Jordan, UT
I am so sorry to hear of both Mary & John's passing. I had the pleasure of meeting Mary & John at the care center. Mary took my mother (Lilly) who passed 6 months later under her wing and became my mother's guardian angel. I will be eternally grateful for Mary's kindness. Mary lead us to Catholic Sunday services and all that was going on at the center which was of great help. We will never forget the image of her gentle and bright face. May God give Mary & John eternal rest and the family the strength to bear the great pain. Peggy Mena (daughter of Lilly Marquez)
Peggy Mena
West Valley, UT
Mary was loved by so many of us at Blessed Sacrament Parish where she was such a faithful servant who served our parish for many years as a Communion Minister. Mary never knew a stranger and was such a great storyteller and listener! She had such a beautiful laugh and smile, and had a positive impact on everyone she met. May God bless you all and bring you peace as you grieve for Mary. She was an angel on earth, as she must certainly be in heaven!
Sharon Phelps
SANDY, UT